Comments on: Childfree? You’ll Change Your Mind http://thebritgirl.com/2006/07/19/childfree-youll-change-your-mind/ The Interests of a Childfree Brit Living in Toronto Wed, 07 Jan 2009 13:24:46 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.5 By: Time Lady http://thebritgirl.com/2006/07/19/childfree-youll-change-your-mind/#comment-139 Time Lady Tue, 12 Sep 2006 19:21:13 +0000 http://thebritgirl.com/?p=78#comment-139 That has to be one of the most irritating ones I get. One guy (breeder deluxe) gave me the if your B/F wanted kids you'd change your tune. I wanted to just move on so I didn't really respond but what does that say about his attitude about women? We're totally pliable to a mans will and have no minds of our own. We're incapable of making the sacrifice of a man for the greater gain of our lives on our terms. I have since discovered the CF community and wonderful lists of comebacks for just such occasions. That has to be one of the most irritating ones I get. One guy (breeder deluxe) gave me the if your B/F wanted kids you’d change your tune. I wanted to just move on so I didn’t really respond but what does that say about his attitude about women?
We’re totally pliable to a mans will and have no minds of our own. We’re incapable of making the sacrifice of a man for the greater gain of our lives on our terms.
I have since discovered the CF community and wonderful lists of comebacks for just such occasions.

]]> By: britgirl http://thebritgirl.com/2006/07/19/childfree-youll-change-your-mind/#comment-138 britgirl Sat, 22 Jul 2006 01:38:46 +0000 http://thebritgirl.com/?p=78#comment-138 I once said to a women that I thought that to have children in my late thirties didn't appeal to me and that I thought it was risky and that I'd be tired.. She replied that I was being over cautious - that now more women than ever are having children in their late 30's, even 40's! and that it's safer than ever. She mentioned a maternity ward that either she or a friend was on where all the new mothers were in their 40's. I'd be "fine". She said I just looked at her. Where do you even begin with this kind of misinformation? You could say she didn't "get" it. I once said to a women that I thought that to have children in my late thirties didn’t appeal to me and that I thought it was risky and that I’d be tired.. She replied that I was being over cautious - that now more women than ever are having children in their late 30’s, even 40’s! and that it’s safer than ever. She mentioned a maternity ward that either she or a friend was on where all the new mothers were in their 40’s. I’d be
“fine”. She said I just looked at her. Where do you even begin with this kind of misinformation? You could say she didn’t “get” it.

]]> By: Hillari http://thebritgirl.com/2006/07/19/childfree-youll-change-your-mind/#comment-137 Hillari Thu, 20 Jul 2006 16:55:16 +0000 http://thebritgirl.com/?p=78#comment-137 One of the things that irritates me about the "you'll change your mind" statement is that it seldom takes into account the woman's age. It is common knowledge that being pregnant after the age of 35 carries many risks. Why do people feel that carrying a child is worth all of the health problems it will bring on the mother, as well as the ones the child may develop (such as Down's Syndrome, for example)? I hate when people say, "you just haven't found the right man". The best retort I can think of for that is, "The right man for me has no children and doesn't want them." One of the things that irritates me about the “you’ll change your mind” statement is that it seldom takes into account the woman’s age. It is common knowledge that being pregnant after the age of 35 carries many risks. Why do people feel that carrying a child is worth all of the health problems it will bring on the mother, as well as the ones the child may develop (such as Down’s Syndrome, for example)?

I hate when people say, “you just haven’t found the right man”. The best retort I can think of for that is, “The right man for me has no children and doesn’t want them.”

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