Where All the Childfree (Wo)Men?
26 07 2006Happily, I’ve found my Childfree man. So I’m not looking. But when I meet up with my Childfree men friends, they bemoan the dearth of Childfree women. All the women they meet, the men say, can’t seem to wait to start having babies. That biological clock is tick-tocking away like a time bomb (oops am I allowed to say that??) getting louder and louder with each passing day – sorry – minute. Unfortunately, it drives all but the most avid men running fast in the opposite direction. The tendency to wean him from his single, unfettered friends, pimping that house in the suburbs (suspiciously close to schools) or asking “where do you see us in one year/two years/five years?” will have that effect too.
When I meet up with some of my Childfree girlfriends they bemoan the dearth of Childfree men. Permanently Childfree men. The men they seem to meet, they say, a) make it plain they simply do not understand a woman not wanting to have kids, and b) make no bones about the fact that “you, me and baby makes three” are very much on their agenda. So best to get with the program and don’t be bringing up that “childfree stuff” with them.
So what gives? Is this the innate perverseness of the Universe asserting itself? Or is it just a case of mis-matched pheromones?
Sounds like you’ve got some serious match-making to do!
You’re lucky in that you actually HAVE childfree friends of both genders to match — bar my significant other, I know of no one in real life with similar views to my own. And if I’m being honest? I’m a little bit jealous 
Thank you
Finding and making childfree friends isn’t easy, i know. They are there but you may have to search a bit. There are more than you may think though. I don’t know where you live, however one thing you could do is see if there is a chapter of No Kidding http://www.nokidding.net/ in your area. It was started in Canada, but there are chapters all over the world. It is basically a social club for Childfree men and women. That’s how I met most of my Childfree friends. You could also consider starting your own chapter/group of No Kidding 
I was always wondering where are the Childfree women. I am a dedicated Childfree man living in southern California. I have NO interest in being a parent.
I have looked into NoKidding and there are no chapters in the Los Angeles city area. But there is a new dating site (www.dinklink.com) that caters to the CF crowd.
Hey Kevin,
Check out meetup.org. Go to their site, plug in your zip code, and they will provide you with a list of other CFs who are “waiting” for a CF Meetup. Then, the question becomes: do you want to become an organizer? It’s really easy (I’m an org, and if I can do it…)
Even here in the sticks of central New England, there were 155 CFs “waiting” for a Meetup when I became an Organizer. 30+ have joined up and 6 of us are getting together for a fab Japanese dinner tomorrow night (our first get-together). And one other data point — as a member of a couple as opposed to a CF single, I seem to be in the *minority* among our membership.
Just my $.02,
Elise
Eh, just from personal experience and travel I’ve found quite a few women who have elected to be childfree in some rather strange places, but really, given the kinds of mentalities needed to fill the jobs where they are located it’s not all that surprising. And a lot of these women are very attractive, highly educated, AND highly intelligent (education does not necessarily equate to being intelligent). They tend to know a second language, often two or three outside of English, are conservative and may or may not hail from a minority group, and may even be a bit compulsive in some right.