Sigh, why oh why do they insist on interviewing celebrities? Why do they insist on getting their views on “love, life and relationships” and “how much I want a baybeey baby,” or “how my wonderful baybeey baby has changed my life and made me a better person…?”
Halle Berry is without doubt one of the most beautiful people in the world. She’s been named one of the “50 Most Beautiful People” in People Magazine in 2004 and she has appeared on this list no less than eight times, tying with Julia Roberts for the most appearances. Halle Berry is definitely a babe.
Rather unfortunately Halle has had awfully lousy taste in men.
Somehow she always seemed to be drawn to/get involved with/love/marry/ the wrong type of man. With big personalities, as egotistical as they come and equally big fists which they apparently didn’t seem too bothered about using. Suffice it to say, with the understatement of the year, that neither David Justice nor Eric Benet, treated Halle well; her marriage to each of them ended in divorce – probably later than they should have done. I used to read (between the lines) of the rocky relationships and wonder why she seemed to be attracted to men who treated her like shit all the time.
Never mind her looks, just the fact that she’s a person. I surmised that beautiful or not, Halle had lower self esteem than perhaps she should have had.
But now she seems to have found an absolute peach of a man in Canadian-born model Gabriel Aubry. Great, really hope so. She could do with a decent chap for a change. Not that Halle has any intention of marrying him – taking a cue from her last two marriages. I can kind of understand, but rather than blaming marriage, though she should probably be blaming her once yucky choice in men. A toe-rag is still a toe-rag, even when you marry him.
But then, like a scratched record, she goes and spoils the shiny happy people moment by gushing about how much she wants… a baybeey. Suddenly, she’s a talking uterus. A wanna-be mum. The interviewer should have called “cut!” right then.
While on Oprah Winfrey’s show, back in 2006, (according to People Magazine) Halle said:
“If there’s no serious man in my life, whoever I’m dating at the time, I’ll say, ‘Hey, would you like to have a baby?’”
She even said she would resort to artificial insemination if she couldn’t find a man. “I could head for the sperm bank. I’ve been so desperately unlucky in love and that has thwarted my desire for motherhood. It’s so frustrating.”
Well, when you’re baby obsessed it must be. She also says she will adopt if it doesn’t happen naturally.
So, Halle’s on a mission to be a mumsie. I hope her tasty model (yes, he is a model) boyfriend Gabriel wants to have lots of babeeys too. Otherwise she might find this relationship as short-lived as her previous ones. And if she wan to to have baybees, she’d better get a move on. It’s getting dicey at nearly 40.
At least she doesn’t have to head to the sperm bank… for now.
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it’s sad about her previous choices in men and the possible low self esteem. I don’t think that she should give up on marriage because her first two failed. Instead she should just be more careful in choosing her third husband. If this Gabriel is such a nice guy that she would have a child with, then perhaps he is the right man she has been waiting for. She certainly has enough experiences with the wrong men, I hope it has helped her to realize when the right one comes around.
i think its in part, she feels she needs to be dominated, in many many studies, its been shown that generally, women go for the alpha males, the more successful, the more powerful, politically/financially.
so when she goes for these men, who are by definition the top of the tree, to get there requires a ruthless sense of self, with that ruthlessness comes violence. contributing factors could be that the man wishes he was more powerful than the woman, and resents it, so takes a step towards violence.
thats why i feel a lot of single women go with the bad boys, as they are alpha males, but they go to the beta boys, for the security.
i think this relationship will faulter, if she pushed i wanna baby routine too hard, unless he wanted them too. its hard to break the habit of bad boys (a similar thing happens to men, but they go for the bimbo kind generally i am not saying men are immune or better many a time i have been told i am too nice).
if it works out, great, but i have my doubts, especially as the situation in holywood is even more mad than the rest of the world when it comes to relationships
I think it certainly will falter if she’s playing the baby card so early in the relationship. she’s had bad choices in men, it wouldn’t be a wise decision to make a bad choice for a “baby daddy”. Even if he is this wonderful guy that wont abuse her, is he “daddy” material? A little to early to tell.
Jannette – I wish her well, but I definitely agree that playing the baby card so early in the first seemingly decent relationship she’s had in years is likely to send the guy running fast in the other direction.And as you say, no clue if he’s dady material. He looks like he’s got a few more modeling years left yet – hot easy to combine a modelling career with domesticity!
Mercurior – yep, she might actually end up thinking he’s “too nice,” add her baby fever and the Hollywood ingredient and the signs don’t look too good.
I wish her well too, I just hope she’s thinking about what she’s doing in this relationship.
quite a few of these celeb baby fanatics, never acutally think at all. in a lot of cases their life is so much easier, they have nannies, maids, chefs, etc..
and they are held up as being perfect parents but a lot of them dont see their kids at all. having a baby seems to me now is a way to restart a career.. at least in the celebrity world
I agree with mercurior — a lot of celebs seem to use babies to restart a faltering career…or at least it seems that way.
But I must admit his mention of the many studies re: alpha males and how these types of men are perhaps predisposed to violence seems a bit anecdotal.
Men who are violent are not necessarily the ones “at the top of the tree” — violent men are all over the tree but I’d wager more feel like they’re barely clinging to the low-hanging branches…
Indeed are men predisposed to violence? I’m not a psychologist but I don’t think so.
Most men are not violent. But perhaps the violence in some men stems from feelings of inadequacy or lack of control (also in some cases mental illness) — hence they’re not necessarily your stereotypical alpha types at all.
It might be that abusers use violence as a way to unconsciously or consciously restore their “manliness” which they feel is in question. They’re very troubled men who feel totally powerless and believe they’ve got to dominate to be successful as men as they don’t feel successful in their lives overall.
I don’t think Ms. Berry feels the need to be dominated — at least consciously. The psychology around being attracted to abusers is very complicated. She is, no doubt, troubled to be sure. It’s not usually just a case of having bad taste in men. It’s often a much deeper issue.
all you have to do is look to the chimps, our closest genetic relations, we arent as advanced as we like to think, violence in men, is a way of making sure you are the best, now this violence can be directed into certain aggressive ways, like business, and so on.. there is violence in men, and women, look at the lion prides the women there are more violent and have been known to kill the offspring of lesser females..
http://www.yale.edu/ynhti/curriculum/units/2002/6/02.06.02.x.html
Chimpanzees fight each other to become alpha males. In chimps this competition for status starts happening at adolescence. Male chimpanzees wait until an opportune moment to become aggressive with each other. Aggression among males within a chimpanzee community happens most obviously at ‘election time’, when the old hierarchy is being challenged.
alpha males have to be more violent to stop the youngsters from getting they life, young beta males, are violent to get to the top, some of that physical violence is redirected to business success, to acquiring goods,
http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-srv/style/longterm/books/chap1/demonicmales.htm
i direct my agression into words, but i still feel anger on occasions, its how you direct the anger the agression, thats the problem.
it could be said he has used his body to get to the top of the fashion stage, or close enough, so that automatically makes him more, acceptable. how many celebrities marry “ordinary” people, not many, first they dont live in that world necessarily, and secondly, “ordinary” people are not top or near top of their profession, actors marrying actors, or people in the public gaze are not generally long lasting marriages, less so if there is a child involved.
I too agree with mercurior, some celebs use babies as a publicity stunt, then the poor children end up being raised by nannys; constantly feeling as if they are not loved enough. Not that common folk don’t do the same, but celebs are doing it too much. people need to seriously start THINKING about whether or not they are ready to have a baby.
Christine – good points…
Mercurior – I would tend to agree with Christine.
I don’t think Halle Berry felt she needed to be dominated. I think she simply was attracted to men who’s ego was so big there was no room for anyone else – at least for a protracted amount of time. And she may not have had enough belief in herself to distance herself from the dazzling “larger than life” personalities. At some point she had enough belief in each of these men to marry them.
Far from being alpha males, (to Christine’s point) they could very well have been men with fragile ego’s who saw Ms Berry as competition (one of her husbands was an R &B singer – not sure he was that successful – she has always been popular and very successful. Her first husband was already successful and popular.
I also feel that it’s a sweeping statement to say that alpha males are violent just because the chimps are… as Christine says – what about those who aren’t “alpha males” and are still violent? And as we live in an ordered society, where all of us are pre-disposed to anger, we learn to redirect our anger. if we don’t we have to face the consequences. That’s why while I think that while the chimpanzee example is interesting, and will say that people will compete if they feel they need to, they don’t necessarily resort to violence to do so.
It’s also true that celebrities marry other celebrities… while this probably doesn’t necessarily make for less screwed up relationships, they are naturally going to gravitate to and meet people who move in the same circles as they do.
Jannette – It’s been a growing trend… babies are the ultimate accessory for celebs…from Britney to Puff Daddy, everyone wants to show off their latest accessory – their babies. Poor kids.
I saw Halle Berry in person five years ago when she was interviewed at the Chicago Film Festival. It is a bit shocking to me that such an articulate, intelligent woman seemed to be obsessed with having a child so close to age 40.
Ms. Berry’s problems with men point up a fact — no matter how beautiful a woman is, that does not exempt her from troubled relationships. I don’t blame her for being wary about marriage. Many smart people get caught up with the wrong person because the wrong person was so adept in hiding their flaws.
Hillari – I also wonder if her need for a baby made her more vulnerable to being taken in by the men – who turned out to be such bad news for her.