It’s 4 Years Already!
31 05 2007That’s right people, Huzza and I celebrate another year of wedded bliss today. It’s truly been a blast and it gets better. Not bad for an on-line, international, transatlantic couple from Toronto and London, England. Seems like only yesterday we were celebrating three years… and I have to say the memory of how we met is just as sparkling as it was when we met seven years ago. Because we met on-line and we are an Internet success story, and because I’m British (and as soon as I open my mouth you can tell) and live in Canada people who meet us – well, meet me really – are always intrigued to hear how me met.
I’m chuffed when people say they know more and more couples who met on-line. As I used to say to people it’s simply another way of meeting people, and with an open mind and your smarts about you, there is always the possibility of meeting that special someone. There are still some though that think the only way to meet anyone is through your best friend’s sister’s brother’s cousin. Or something like that. Not to say it isn’t possible. But the Internet broadens your horizons. And there are just as many jerks off-line as there are on. There are good people online and off-line, and sooner or later the relationship goes from the online world to the off line… and then – we have lift off. Or not.
To me, even though I didn’t think I’d meet the love of my life on Match.com I have to say I sometimes pinch myself in wonder that I met someone who is so right for me and that we were so right for each other. True love is hard to find. Sometimes you just have to take a chance. Of course, we had the will and the determination to make it work… we have an equal partnership based on equality and sharing negotiation. Intimacy which, more than sharing, means a totally committed partnership. And of course, lots of love. With no love, there’s no relationship.
And best of all we have fun!
On Like It Is we’ve been talking recently about couples and the impact and painful repercussions when one of them wants children and the other doesn’t. Couples bullying those they say they love into submission for something they want, demanding they give in or they’ll rip their lives apart by leaving them. Couples who seemingly don’t care about the other’s misgivings….Frankly, I cannot imagine treating my husband like that or him me.
I am thankful that Huzza and I are both very happily childfree. As I mentioned in one of my posts having grown up never challenging the thought that one day I’d have kids, it was interesting to discover that, when I considered everything I wasn’t interested in having them at all. The maternal instinct didn’t kick in then and it hasn’t now. I am positive that the fact we decided not to have kids and can focus on each other has brought us closer and at the same time given us freedom and interdependence at the same time. It was the right decision for us and I can only be thankful that we both wanted to be childfree and didn’t blindly follow society’s dictates.
So, folks, if you are looking for love, and you happen to be on-line don’t give up. There are good guys – and gals out there and they are getting together from all over the world. Tip for the girls? Get rid of any preconceptions of an “ideal” guy, otherwise you won’t recognise him when you meet him. Of course if you’re childfree, then that’s a fundamental deal-breaker as are a few other things, but I’m talking of more material trappings and preconceptions.
Oh yes…Huzza and I have succeeded in getting one of our single guy friends to join Lavalife… so far so good!
Well, can’t hang about. Just wanted to share my happy day with you all. I’m off to celebrate and be wined and dined in style!
Happy Anniversary - How We Met,
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Congratulations from Christine and I to you two. We just celebrated our 5 year marker on the 25th! Due to a rather big purchase, I couldn’t be extravagant with the occasion. However, a sushi and sashimi dinner fit the bill nicely!
I hope you had a blast!
congratulations on your 4 year anniversary, its a weird feeling isnt it, meeting your love online,
i met my fiance online, 3 years this september, i am from england she is from america, we both had given up looking, we had joined a online blog called the big fat blog, because we are plus sized, and we had been leaving messages on the boards for months, but never really speaking to each other.
Until one day, she had an awful day, that she felt as if she had no friends, the friends she had then, bullied her made fun of her size, and she felt left out and unloved. so i emailed her and posted it onthe blog saying look you have a friend here. and she was on line and she was going to email me, but saw my email. and we talked 3 hours that day, and nearly 3 hours every day since, i flew over there about 6 months after we first met online, and can you say major sparks, never felt as many ever. and i knew, without doubt that she was the one for me, thats how i met my rowan, with any luck we will be married this september, if not well have to save up for the flight.
once we had spoken for a bit, she showed me the turtles childfree page, i never knew there was such a group of people, people who didnt want children, the more i read the more i saw that i fitted all the childfree feelings, and it helped me to relax, there was no pressure, i didnt have to have children for the state for the government, i was childfree.
and thats my story how i met her (i dont go to that blog anymore, because the owner became a bit of an idiot)
Happy Anniversary to both of you, and many more happy years together!
As you know, since your Huzza was the best man at our wedding, we also met online. This was way back in 1996, when the Internet was still rather new to most people. I remember co-workers being rather freaked out that I was doing the radical thing of meeting somewhere I had “met” online who was flying in from America to see me. Some of them thought he was a convict, though it begged the question of how a prisoner was going to fly over to meet me…
It’s a lot like pen pals, in a sense, without the long wait between letters, and like you said, when you really meet, it either clicks or doesn’t. And more and more, it’s not that unusual.
Congratulations to you both! I met my girlfriend online also; we are a MySpace couple
Thanks everyone for your good wishes
AM - I had to laugh.. because I remember everyone thinking that if you were going to meet someone from “on-line” you might as well be going to meet the axe-murderer and you’ve never return to tell the tale lol! I recall getting lots of “helpful tips”…
Chris W - Congratulations!! On your anniversary AND the big purchase!
mercurior - What a lovely story!
Mosh - Yay!
A hearty CONGRATULATIONS!
HAPPY ANNIVERSARY!!!