Stick by your guns, sister.

I’ve tried to look inward as to what I believe is right and good for me and my family/friends rather than what society/religion preach. I may be a woman, but I have a brain to think with and I think as a person you only know what’s best for you.

You are so right for a list long of reasons.

I couldn’t agree more, I made the mistake of telling my Mum and friends with kids, that I was having a hard time getting pregnant. Now after years have passed, I realize, I never really wanted to be pregnant or have kids. Now it’s unbearable how they look at me with pity, “oh don’t worry my dear, it will happen, but don’t wait too long” like my current existence is meaningless without children. I do love them and believe I would be happy with them, but I’m also beginning to believe that it’s OK to enjoy life without them. Also I don’t want to contribute to the current world-wide dilemma, over-population. So instead of pitying me, you should thank me child-heavy folks, for I will not pollute your precious child’s world with my baggage. I will live a conscious existence and will think of all the refuse I create and will try to minimize it, not because of my child, but because of my world.

it’s unfortunate, but luckily by the time the world is turned to shit by the over-abundance of stupid people, i will be dead and i won’t have any descendants to worry about.

thanks for the entertainment keri!

To me that is always a red flag for some deep rooted insecurity and says a whole lot more about their mind set than it says about the person they are poking at. It’s like a grown up version of “Mean Girls”.

As I and many others have said in posts here, those who are happy with their own life choices aren’t inclined to provide negative commentary about others. Trust me, they aren’t doing it because they are really concerned about your welfare and want you to be happy or happier. They do it because if they can make you doubt yourself and make you feel that they are living a better life then you are, they may actually start to believe it themselves.

I hope you are not implying we are all “selfish.” God, I HATE that word! Don’t you think that some parents want to and do have children for selfish reasons because THEY WANT THEM?
I for one am NOT hurting ANYONE by being childfree. My spouse is fine with my decision, my parents AND his already HAVE grandchildren a boy AND a girl each because of our younger brothers and our grandparents have great grandchildren so we EXACTLY are we depriving?
Can you REALLY GUARANTEE what my kids are like? What if they rebel and become the next Osama Bin Laden?
Can you
REALLY GUARANTEE that I will ENJOY being a mother?
If you are wrong, how much would you pay me, especially considering how expensive children can be, how does £100 000 sound?

If you want children and have them and things go well maybe they can increase your happiness. If you DON’T want them and have them I reckon a lot of the time they take some of your happiness away.
We are all as humans so diverse and different who says that there can’t be variations in this area too?

Some people spit them out without thinking twice. We thought long and hard and decided we could handle one. We’re doing a good job, I think, but we will be happy when he’s grown, and we have nobody but ourselves to wake up and please everyday. Not trying to hurry the day – but just saying that it will be nice, when it does get here, to have the luxury of thinking of ourselves first.

I don’t blame people for choosing not to have kids at all. You don’t miss what you never had, and sometimes choosing to have children puts you on the most painful path through life of all. Basically – its a risk. A huge risk. Some people think that if you do the job right, you’ll be fine – but that aint necessarily so. A lot of things are out of your control.

I identify more with child free people than I do with people who keep having kids, or who are totally wrapped up and obsessed with the kids, and basically have no other life at all.

“again, i do respect those who know they are far too selfish to commit to the demands of raising children.”
No, you don’t.

And, by the way, things happen for a reason is getting to be “cop out” speak for “I don’t want to take responsibility for making my own choices…” And I guess if a woman was raped and became pregnant from that vile act you’d say that happened for a reason too.

“i am intelligent enough to understand that not everyone who wishes not to reproduce led miserable childhoods. although from the underlying sarcasm of some of these posts i would have to conclude that this is a clear cut lie.”

A clear cut lie? Listen to yourself!

As for your comment about PCOS, just cos you have family members with it doesn’t qualify you to make sweeping statements about whether egg donation is needed or not.

Are you saying that a woman shouldn’t have sex unless she wants to conceive? Umm. . . this is the 21st century, right? In case you don’t understand, birth control is a joint responsibility and even the best can fail.
It’s barbaric to force a woman to have a child she doesn’t want. The act of giving birth doesn’t mean she will automatically transform into a devoted mother. The amount of children in foster care at any given time should tell you otherwise.
How in hell is saying that women aren’t just uterii feminism gone awry? The recognition that women aren’t just walking wombs is one of feminism’s greatest achievments.

Don’t approve of abortion? Then don’t have one. Simple. And things don’t always happen for a reason. Far from it.

When I’m old and grey, I sure as hell won’t regret not having children, especially if it meant I’d end up as sanctimonious as you.

a lot of people if they use protections it can fail, what if they cant cope with a child, they have anger issues, or some genetic diseases or physical diseases, that will be passed on. what if a woman was raped, or incest, is an abortion still wrong.

so the childfree shouldnt have sex, (does that mean shouldnt use protection), because we dont want children.. and children are a natural consequence of sex. is that what you are saying.

i have had a happy life, but its people like you keri, that want women to be only see as barefoot and pregnant. and sarcasm, is sarcasm, not some deeper underlying cause. (i bet you did a course in womens studies and or psychology)

feminism gone awry, sonce when does freedom of choice freedom of thought and freedom of action equate to feminism gone awry. so once again we are selfish, because we have decided that children in our lives would live in bad situations, or in my case disinterest.

well i am glad you admit your a fool, if i deal with the elderly are they somehow less important than babies. if i deal with animals are they less important than babies.

you forget there are organisation like big brother/big sister who do the same thing, are they less important because its not your child. and how will you know what will happen when your old and grey. your wonderful kids could hate you, they could be childfree, or they could just stuff you in a home and let you rot.

they could abuse you steal from you, which does happen. will you regret it then