Ha! So, it took a survey did it? Where have this lot been then?
Yours truly and most of us childfree people out there could have told the survey people a thing or two. And we aren’t surprised. Why should we be? We’ve been living happily married or partnered in the face of all the blather about kids being the ultimate necessity for a happy marriage. But of course since we’re childfree (oops,did I hear they prefer to call us child-less?) the only time these pundits want to solicit our views is in order to say how unhappy we are, how lonely we are – cos we haven’t bred an army of kids. We don’t know what life’s about, now do we? I had to laugh when I read this.
Barbara Dafoe of the Rutgers University’s (Rutgers??) National Marriage Project … allows her bias appear when she says slates people who choose not to rear children – with a swipe at poor parenting for good measure. She says:
“The popular culture is increasingly oriented to fulfilling the X-rated fantasies and desires of adults. Child-rearing values — sacrifice, stability, dependability, maturity — seem stale and musty by comparison.”
Soooo… that’s what we must be up to, because we choose not to parent. When we choose to have happy relationships without the need for kids? We can be in life-long, long term, happy and stable and fulfilling relationships, without being parents. Does that make us unstable? Undependable? Immature? In need of kids to “stabilize us?” And as for popular culture, well from where I sit it’s very much childed.
Fulfilling “X-rated fantasies and desires of adults?” preferable to parenting?
Hell, yeah! As one commentator said – and I love this -
“The sound you hear is
childless child-free people all across America blowing raspberries at these assholes.”
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