I am pleased you’ll keep reading. I somehow don’t think you were ever “one of the child-free” if you were waiting to have a child at any point. And on that point, if you read enough on this blog and others, you’ll gain an understanding of exactly what being child-free means. I’m not sure what you’re referring to in your comment on ” saying nasty things” so I won’t bother to address it.

As for you seeing why people come here to bash our views… sorry, but there is no excuse for them, particularly not defensiveness. I do not visit childed blogs to bash their views. They often simply cannot tolerate the thought that some people don’t want children, don’t really care what they’ve gone through - since they freely chose to have said children - … and don’t like the kids they seem unable to control and expect everyone to put up with.

One thing is very clear to me. And it is worth an article in itself. It’s that childfree blogs and forums are very important and very much needed and the hate-filled envious flamers are going to have their work cut out.

What a waste of energy. What is it about some women (in particular) that they cannot seem to tolerate any other choice other than the one THEY made?

Kim - hello - I have always thought your articles were very well balanced. Pretty sad that some see fit to send nasty email and be destructive. I’m still puzzled how whether my parents wanted kids or not has anything to do with my own choice to not have them!

Usually, with BellaOnline, people just don’t always realize they are at the Married No Kids site, because it falls under the heading “Relationships.” But there are those who set out to be demeaning and destructive, and those people are asked to leave.

I try to maintain a rather “tame” forum, because I don’t want to be another anti-child, family hating site. Married No Kids is more about finding peace with and support for your desire not to have children. Nothing more, nothing less.

Kim
MNK Editor

i want them to come.. i want to rip them a new one.. but they dont

There are so few places where childfree people can truly vent their frustrations that I can quite understand why their forums fulfill this role. Until blogs, there was no-where at all. It is a pity the apolgetic streak is creeping in, but I feel that people who don’t want it can always go off and form community.

Many of my friends are parents and I know for a fact that they are great parents - and their kids are super kids so one can’t lump everyone in together. Having said that though, our childfree experience if full of certain parents who find it quite ok to question our choice and are not accepting of it and until being childfree isn’t seen as some kind of “freaky abnormality” there is going to be room for many more childfree blogs.

We can’t do anything about what breeders do on their board, except try and set the record straight where we feel we can… so I am only really concerned about what happens on my blog as that’s what I can control.

But Phoeana’s point is a good one. Why hang out on a childfree blog (if you aren’t a friend, supporter or learner) to stir up trouble?

It makes no sense - unless the intent is malicious. But hey, I have to admit there IS an entertainment value

My list of rules don’t help much, seeing as most of them don’t read the rules. In fact, I think most of the trolls I get don’t read my site AT ALL, they just believe some lie or exaggeration their friends tell them, and start cussing me out for something I never even said or did. *shrug*

I still have fun with it, though. Most of the hate mail I get is at least a little amusing. Some of it is downright hysterical! I don’t mind the trolls and hate mail much, though, because it’s free entertainment.

Some bimbo emailed me a couple of weeks ago saying, “I just don’t get the point of your site! What do you people think you’re going to accomplish!” So I emailed her back and said, “You didn’t even read the site, did you?” and gave her links to the pages where I clearly state why I have a site and what the (general) goals are of the (general) childfree community. She emailed back and said, “I did too read those pages! They just weren’t clear enough to understand!” Not clear enough? She must be joking. She’s obviously never read any of it, but is trying not to look like the complete moron she is. Very amusing.

both of which arent the best, for the rest of us cf, so what can we do.. i dont know.

so we get it from both ends..

i dont swear, but thats me, i dont object to others swearing, they have the freedom to do that, but if they start on certain words that denigrate groups then thats it.. theres a line which i do not cross, of course if someone insults my family or close friends (which has happened) the gloves are off.

i think we generally deal with trolls ourselves mostly ;-).. we are learning to be not as apologetic as some boards have become, unfortunatly others become too militant and dislike anyone that questions them (even on off topic posts). Which is a shame., sometimes they are the real enemy, they really do seem to hate parents, which does the britgirl and other peoples blogs and forums no good, it just perpetuates the breeders hatred of our freedoms and of us.

these people see the boards that “seem” to hate parents, giving them the impression that we all hate them , a few childfree people on other groups troll parent forums and blogs which just gives them more ammo against us, if i post on a parent board or a topic like that i am always away of how they see me and the rest of us, but i dont compromise i just state the facts, with evidence usually. and let it them decide if i hate kids or not, if they reply good on merc, i may put a post saying btw i am childfree..

but thats just my way.