Like It Is

That’s what a social worker told a father when his mentally disturbed partner was released to see his children – unsupervised. The father warned Social Services. But he could have (and probably did) warn until he was blue in the face. Alas to no avail. His children were murdered by their mother and while she, the nut-bar, serves time for the manslaughter of her two children, his nightmare will continue.

Mother released from care to kill her children

Social Services assessed Vivian Gamor and found nothing wrong. Obviously there was a lot wrong, since she managed to bludgeon one of her kids to death and smother the other with cling film. To think of anyone dying in that way is terrible. To think of kids suffering this – words once again fail me. To think this happened at the hands of their parent… and that it could have been prevented.

To make matters worse, it seems that all the social service workers, who should have known better, seemed to be blinded by the haze of the “specialness of motherhood.” Or something.Their mother may be a crazed lunatic, but – she’s their Mother. And that’s why she should be allowed to see her kids. Unsupervised. In spite of the father’s repeated pleas that she was a real danger to their children. Well, he’s just their father. Or he was.

Excerpt:

“She had been previously been sectioned after claiming the children were not hers, that she was the son of God and Jesus was her twin. But Gamor was later released from care after doctors concluded she posed no risk to herself or others.

No risk??

“She was later allowed limited, supervised contact with her children but their father was worried about the prospect of unsupervised overnight stays.

“However, his attempts to stop her seeing the children were rebuffed and he was told he would not be allowed to come between them and their mother.

When he voiced concerns about the overnight stays to a social worker, she told him: “She is their mother.” After Gamor killed her children, tests showed she had not taken her prescribed anti-psychotic drugs for 10 days.

Poor guy, he didn’t have a chance. Take the kids away from their mother? Not on your life.

Certainly not on theirs.

And once again Social Services is “looking thoroughly at the involvement of all public agencies in this case.” Mealy-mouthed words. Shame on them. Two kids died – unnecessarily. Their father, despite all his efforts is going to suffer for the rest of his life thinking of how his kids died.
This is not the first horrific story of children suffering at the hands of their parents (crazy, off their meds or otherwise). It isn’t going to be the last either.

Many childed people like link being childfree with hating children - even though there is no evidence to link the two. When do they ever remember, or do they even know, that the greatest danger to children is not from some stranger. But from their parents or carers.

She is their mother, is she? Fat lot of good that did them. Being their mother does not entitle her to take their lives because she’s lost control over hers.

I can’t say it often enough – that some people just should not be parents.

And if by some sad chance they become parents their kids should be taken away – out of harms way.

Thanks to mercurior for sending me the link to this sad story.

Technorati Tags: childfree