Umm….what about priests and nuns and bishops and archbishops and cardinals and popes? Mother Teresa? By the NFP logic, these people are selfish ungodly abominations, the whole lot of them. (At least, the ones who don’t actually have children….)

What, is this blogger some kind of crypto-Protestant heretic or something?

Oh and withholding contraception from people? Congratulations, now every call girl, every teen-aged girl who has promiscuous sex and every woman who chooses that as a means of making a living will be having kids they can’t keep, don’t want or end up hating. Also, diseases could possibly be spread to those children and other children. And I am really honestly not being disrespectful toward those women. I know they may not have another choice and that they are using protection now. I’m just saying that withholding birth control or condoms is a horrible idea.

Also I’d like to point out that no one in this world is supposed to act, think or feel exactly like another person. We are all unique beings. We all look different, have different cultures and religions, think differently and have differing personalities. That’s what makes living here so splendid: We can all have our own theories about life, formulate out own ideas, hold our own ideals and make our own choices. At least, that’s how it works when you live in a place where you are allowed free will.

Last time I checked, the constitution gives me the right to do whatever I want with my own body, and that includes not giving birth to children. It also gives my husband the right to use protection.

I really don’t mean to preach. I guess when you’re passionate about something and good at expressing yourself in words, it just flows forth when it needs to be. Anyway, there’s what I think. Thanks for reading.

It’s frankly laughable that she thinks that because they believe what they do “so strongly” that perhaps “we feel challenged”. I think it’s the other way around. And perhaps she needs to read the original post as well as yours…. as it was nfpworks who attacked the childfree.. by calling the very act of not wanting or having children “evil incarnate.” I guess that’s par for the course for them.

Talk about closed minds. And they have the gall to preach about love and Jesus and the Trinity…

And as for this…

“Isn’t there even a glimmer of a chance that she was concerned about you, rather than judging you?”.

The answer is No.

Just checked up on the blog post, and it seems that commenting is now closed off. Really irritating, since I really wanted to respond to another Christian, Tamra, whom had written these views:

… It meant sharing that love and letting it go out from me in a concrete fashion, ergo, adoption. Any other choice would have been selfish and ultimately led to emptiness. That is what love is, at its essence. Otherwise, we are just lusting after one thing or another, and that is just plain sad.

… So, why is our position so poisonous to the Childfree folks? Is it because it might make some sense, deep down? Or is it because we believe it so strongly that it might challenge ‘em? Or is it simply that the Childfree folks are easily provoked? I really don’t know, but apparently we are not allowed to have our point of view without being attacked. So be it. Jesus said this would happen, and now it has. Could He have been right about some other things, too? Food for thought, if you are so inclined.

As a fellow Christian, this mindset and one-sided take on christian philosophy got me very angry. I don’t think she had read my prior comment on the post. Maybe if she did, her thoughts might have done a double-take.

But I have to say the comments on that post are great. Never mind the tripe, just read the comments. I know saying that is sending more readers over there (and I bet nfpw has never had so many commentators!) but it is gratifyin and heartening to read such well thought-out, amusing and TRUE comments on that post – some of which are from you of course. Props!

CFsince6 – Yep! Tripe indeed.
AngryGirrl – LOL

I couldn’t even read that blog entry.

I posted this story in our CF & Loving It group on MySpace. Here’s the website addy:

http://forum.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=messageboard.viewThread&entryID=46076811&groupID=101124498&adTopicID=23&Mytoken=F5365B1E-DEB6-430D-BEDCEAD8AD91544C7611635

THANK YOU for writing about this.

S.

The opinions expressed by that blogger are just another example of the rampant ignorance that the childfree is constantly up against.

“…I can live with someone not seeing my point of view, even with setting forth a reasoned argument, although why she’s so scared of childfree folk is beyond me ” “

Yeah, I’ve though about it and I see your point, Britgirl. I too appreciate a well-reasoned argument but my opinion is that you can’t argue with religious folks who know for certain God’s on their side. It is a non-starter to my mind. So I don’t go there myself…having grown up with religious fundamentalists in my family I tend to not engage them or try to make them see my point of view. Defeatist perhaps but one grows weary.

I don’t deal well with religious folks who think we’re fatuous and evil incarnate, either. But, I imagine like most of us, I am fine with religious folks who are tolerant (nay, accepting) of different points of view.

I’m not religious myself but I have some dear friends who are quite religious (but not traditional or fundamentalist) and also childfree. I’ve never asked but I bet they use contraceptives .

Brightfeather – Don’t hold back I know you know these “types” well But I’m going to read your comment. Like you I doubt the blogger will see the light… of all the reasoned comments on her actual blog the only one she could pick to respond to was about… cats. Riiight.

Christine… ya, but consider.. I can live with someone not seeing my point of view, even with setting forth a reasoned argument, although why she’s so scared of childfree folk is beyond me Oops I forgot we’re fatuous and evil incarnate… heh! I don’t even care she’s anti-contraceptive (even if it is misguided). The post was so illogical that I was amazed anyone could respond to it at all.

Kat – I’m still giggling… I fear the irony is lost on nfpworks. It’s a good thing Jesus didn’t have kids (quite clearly having much better things to do) otherwise he’d be held up as an example. Imagine!

“I wouldn’t take this “article” (which is nothing more than a blog entry) seriously. Consider the source. You can’t expect NFP people to be sane or rational, especially on this topic.”

Certainly looks like it. I had no idea. I guess I’m too used to rational, reasonable, sane thinking, Phoena

npfworks – You are not like me. We have nothing in common, so please don’t even go there. Don’t forget to read my disclaimer… carefully. Potshots, even veiled ones will be cheerfully dealt with. But I suspect you’ve far too many of comments to respond to on your own blog than to waste your time here, in a veritable hotbed of “evil”.

Oh, and by the way? The word is spelled controversial. Not contraversial. And it’s Childfree or child-free or even Childfree. Not “Childfree.”

Anne- Marie…. True.

Just wanted to add that the author of that blog just lost any other respect I had for them with her comment to you.

Gee. Can we say “baiting”?

My cousin had two kids in one year (kid #1 was a New Year baby and kid #2 was born December 30th of that same year) thanks to the old can’t-get-knocked-up-whilst-breastfeeding MYTH.

As for Natural Family Planning, I believe it’s the same thing as the Fertility Awareness Method, which is one of the several methods of birth control we use. “Several” being the key word. There’s no “chaste abstinence” involved. During periods of high fertility, we just use extra precautionary measures during our eyes-roll-back-in-your-head good sex.

Per your comment, “So it’s no surprise that npfworks doesn’t, or simply can’t address them, perhaps she’s unable to since her “argument” was so flawed to begin with.”

I’ve been out of town, and probably like you I have a full time job that doesn’t allow me to spend all of my time articulately responding to dozens upon dozens of comments throughout the day.

I’m working on another blog entry to collectively respond to some of the most commented upon aspects of my initial and very contraversial post on “Childfree” proponents.

Thank you for all the attention to my spelling mistakes. It’s endearing. Are you a copy editor, or just angry because I spell fertilization with a z instead of s?

This is supposed to WORK? Explain that to my friend, who has two children ten months apart. Guess it didn’t work so great for her!! And a lot of other people too, I’d say!!