Comments on: Childfree… Hard To Accept? http://thebritgirl.com/2007/11/19/childfree-hard-to-accept/ The Interests of a Childfree Brit Living in Toronto Fri, 09 Jan 2009 23:21:58 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.5 By: Britgirl http://thebritgirl.com/2007/11/19/childfree-hard-to-accept/#comment-14911 Britgirl Fri, 05 Dec 2008 00:23:45 +0000 http://thebritgirl.com/2007/11/19/childfree-hard-to-accept/#comment-14911 @ChrisOH: Somehow they manage to side-step that question. ;) @ChrisOH: Somehow they manage to side-step that question. ;)

]]> By: Britgirl http://thebritgirl.com/2007/11/19/childfree-hard-to-accept/#comment-14910 Britgirl Fri, 05 Dec 2008 00:22:36 +0000 http://thebritgirl.com/2007/11/19/childfree-hard-to-accept/#comment-14910 @Hillari: The Pastor sounds pretty arrogant to me. I wonder how they presume to know how every woman thinks, and feels. And the way they totally ignore any view that's contradictory to their own. Not exactly guiding the flock... @Hillari: The Pastor sounds pretty arrogant to me. I wonder how they presume to know how every woman thinks, and feels. And the way they totally ignore any view that’s contradictory to their own. Not exactly guiding the flock…

]]> By: ChrisOH http://thebritgirl.com/2007/11/19/childfree-hard-to-accept/#comment-14873 ChrisOH Wed, 26 Nov 2008 18:43:48 +0000 http://thebritgirl.com/2007/11/19/childfree-hard-to-accept/#comment-14873 Hi Hillari! So Tim LaHaye and your pastor feel that Jesus Christ and St. Paul were selfish and warped? Interesting... I took the liberty of looking up your book reference on Amazon.com -- some of the customer reviews are a hoot! :D Hi Hillari!

So Tim LaHaye and your pastor feel that Jesus Christ and St. Paul were selfish and warped? Interesting…

I took the liberty of looking up your book reference on Amazon.com — some of the customer reviews are a hoot! :D

]]> By: Hillari http://thebritgirl.com/2007/11/19/childfree-hard-to-accept/#comment-14872 Hillari Wed, 26 Nov 2008 18:19:40 +0000 http://thebritgirl.com/2007/11/19/childfree-hard-to-accept/#comment-14872 I had been reading a book called The Act of Marriage by Tim and Beverly LaHaye. Pastor had read this Christian sex manual before he got hitched last month. I told him I was offended by the authors' notion that people who refuse to have children are selfish and warped. Pastor responded with the usual Bible quotes. When he got to "children are a blessing", I gave him a look. "Oh yes, they are, Hillari," he said in response. He continued with, "You feel like that because you are single. I've known plenty of women who like you, weren't fond of kids. As soon as they were pregnant, their hormones kicked in, and they loved their child." "What about women who have no maternal instincts?" I asked him. "There's no such thing. Women are made to have maternal instincts by design," he answered. He could tell I wasn't convinced. "I'll just wait to marry after menopause," I cracked. "That didn't work for Sarah (Abraham's wife who had a child at age 90)," Pastor laughed. I just shook my head. I had been reading a book called The Act of Marriage by Tim and Beverly LaHaye. Pastor had read this Christian sex manual before he got hitched last month. I told him I was offended by the authors’ notion that people who refuse to have children are selfish and warped.

Pastor responded with the usual Bible quotes. When he got to “children are a blessing”, I gave him a look. “Oh yes, they are, Hillari,” he said in response. He continued with, “You feel like that because you are single. I’ve known plenty of women who like you, weren’t fond of kids. As soon as they were pregnant, their hormones kicked in, and they loved their child.” “What about women who have no maternal instincts?” I asked him. “There’s no such thing. Women are made to have maternal instincts by design,” he answered.

He could tell I wasn’t convinced. “I’ll just wait to marry after menopause,” I cracked. “That didn’t work for Sarah (Abraham’s wife who had a child at age 90),” Pastor laughed. I just shook my head.

]]> By: 2nd time http://thebritgirl.com/2007/11/19/childfree-hard-to-accept/#comment-11639 2nd time Sat, 08 Dec 2007 09:44:10 +0000 http://thebritgirl.com/2007/11/19/childfree-hard-to-accept/#comment-11639 My sister in her late 40s knew when she was 14 that she would never want kids. She has learned to put up with other office workers that think she is from some other planet when she says she has no babies by choice. Now, when others are talking about 2 year old timmy and how he burped twice last night with his finger in his ear, my sister will mention how she loves her two children. She will then say they are the two most beautiful dogs in the world and they are way more intelligent than most 4 year olds. haha..... I love it! My sister in her late 40s knew when she was 14 that she would never want kids. She has learned to put up with other office workers that think she is from some other planet when she says she has no babies by choice. Now, when others are talking about 2 year old timmy and how he burped twice last night with his finger in his ear, my sister will mention how she loves her two children. She will then say they are the two most beautiful dogs in the world and they are way more intelligent than most 4 year olds. haha….. I love it!

]]> By: Tanya http://thebritgirl.com/2007/11/19/childfree-hard-to-accept/#comment-11370 Tanya Wed, 21 Nov 2007 05:02:50 +0000 http://thebritgirl.com/2007/11/19/childfree-hard-to-accept/#comment-11370 I think it is painfully hard for people, not even just family, to accept. It's NOT the norm and usually, those who do not want kids are really sorry that they can not have them, rather than rejoicing in their CHOICE to not have them. I teach and as such, most days, I like kids. My students ask me if I have kids and I usually say that no, I don't like kids. They look confused for a bit and then ask if I like them. I do like my students, but not all the time and I can leave them at 320. :) I think it is painfully hard for people, not even just family, to accept. It’s NOT the norm and usually, those who do not want kids are really sorry that they can not have them, rather than rejoicing in their CHOICE to not have them.

I teach and as such, most days, I like kids. My students ask me if I have kids and I usually say that no, I don’t like kids. They look confused for a bit and then ask if I like them. I do like my students, but not all the time and I can leave them at 320. :)

]]> By: Britgirl http://thebritgirl.com/2007/11/19/childfree-hard-to-accept/#comment-11365 Britgirl Wed, 21 Nov 2007 01:02:08 +0000 http://thebritgirl.com/2007/11/19/childfree-hard-to-accept/#comment-11365 Kath - Read it. I so agree!! What gets me is that, despite this... they are still more likely than ever to say to a childfree person 'Why don't you have kids?!" Chris W... LOL! Kath - Read it. I so agree!! What gets me is that, despite this… they are still more likely than ever to say to a childfree person ‘Why don’t you have kids?!”

Chris W… LOL!

]]> By: Chris W http://thebritgirl.com/2007/11/19/childfree-hard-to-accept/#comment-11342 Chris W Tue, 20 Nov 2007 04:33:42 +0000 http://thebritgirl.com/2007/11/19/childfree-hard-to-accept/#comment-11342 Y'know, my wife can identify with this article all too well. She especially loved the recent incident of one of her co-workers saying, "Whaddya mean you don't like children? You gotta love children; you're a woman!" The runner-up to that comment was from the same person: "You're not doing God's will..." Needless to say, my hon doesn't work around that obnoxious "lady" anymore. Heh! Y’know, my wife can identify with this article all too well. She especially loved the recent incident of one of her co-workers saying, “Whaddya mean you don’t like children? You gotta love children; you’re a woman!”

The runner-up to that comment was from the same person: “You’re not doing God’s will…”

Needless to say, my hon doesn’t work around that obnoxious “lady” anymore. Heh!

]]> By: Kath http://thebritgirl.com/2007/11/19/childfree-hard-to-accept/#comment-11334 Kath Mon, 19 Nov 2007 20:56:57 +0000 http://thebritgirl.com/2007/11/19/childfree-hard-to-accept/#comment-11334 Hmmm. Well, they just launched a new 'Women's Act' sub-site, so it can't be all that difficult to add a site? While I was perusing Blogher (my first time) I did find this article which left me a little...how should I say...smug?? And really really thrilled I don't have to deal with raising kids. http://www.blogher.com/broke-and-childful-middle-class-money-malaise Every day in every way I am so thrilled I stuck to my wishes to be child-free. Hmmm. Well, they just launched a new ‘Women’s Act’ sub-site, so it can’t be all that difficult to add a site?

While I was perusing Blogher (my first time) I did find this article which left me a little…how should I say…smug?? And really really thrilled I don’t have to deal with raising kids.

http://www.blogher.com/broke-and-childful-middle-class-money-malaise

Every day in every way I am so thrilled I stuck to my wishes to be child-free.

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