Then again, you are so self absorbed you probably don’t miss much when it comes to human relations anyway.

You don’t “rock.” Women who rock treat men with respect and dignity – as human beings, and not merely sperm donors or walking wallets. (I am a woman.)

What do dads do besides earn money, come home to be taken care of by mummy, refuse to grow up, and chase skirt? Hmmm? Sorry boys, but if you want your place in the world of fatherhood, you have to earn it. Oh — and if you have babies, yes, you should pay for them! You don’t just get to rent them in return for having some sex with a woman while she’s still your wife — and then refuse to pay for them when you divorce because your ego’s bruised and you can’t get sex. Which reminds me — have you forgotten that sex begets children? If you don’t want kids, keep it in your pants. Or take responsibility for contraception yourself! Of course women will trick you into babies — just like you trick us into having sex. Biological urges are fierce, doncha know?

We’ve always wanted your babies more than we’ve wanted you: men want women, and women want babies. It’s time men woke up to the fact that our urge for babies is as strong, if not stronger, as your urge for sex. Duh – that’s what keeps the human race alive. That’s why women primarily marry, you fools, so of course they’re sizing you up as a glorified sperm donor (a.k.a. “father”) from the minute they meet you. The biological clock isn’t a fear of wrinkles; it’s a body craving a baby — yes, like a junkie. And that’s why they care about the size of your wallet – like it or not, a woman is physically dependent on a man for some of the time she’s pregnant and breastfeeding. She can’t earn with ease! I’m sick of little boys bleating on about women wanting babies instead of them. It’s always been that way! You get sex and your ego boosted in return! The difference is, now that marriage is hard to obtain, we’re not supposed to tell you. How many books are there on the market that tell us this? We’re supposed to downplay it in order not to make you run! Duh. Just like all your books tell you how to manipulate women into having sex by yeah, downplaying it in order not to make us run.

As for the argument that a single woman is sooooooooo selfish for having a child because she wants one – um, why do married women have children? Oh, that’s right, as “an expression of their love” (a.k.a. because they want one.) Sure, they can sugarcoat their biological urge in altruistic motives, but essentially, we all want babies because…we do. Personally, I believe many, many women will end up having babies on their own. And I applaud them. They can afford it (sperm donors are legally protected from providing child support payments) and they’re usually highly educated — not like the trash posting here. Miserable women who married men they only pretended to like in order to get knocked up (and there are loads of you out there, but I promise I won’t tell your spouse), foolish egotistical men who’ve only just realised that the world doesn’t revolve around them, and narrowminded bible bashers might not like it, but I don’t see how making a conscious decision to love another human being concerns anyone else.

I read an excerpt, how becoming pregnant was just a “matter of logistics,” ad nauseum.

I feel sorry for your children, having you women as their mothers.

HOW DARE YOU assume that a child not want a father. Britgirl said this, and I quote:

“Right. But he does have a dad. Or at least maybe he would have liked the choice to have a Dad. Perhaps the deliberately “sans father” kids will let you know when they get old enough.”

She is absolutely correct. It would have been nice to have a choice on that matter.

My mother was a single mother – but through divorce, not because she selfishly needed a BAAAAAAAAAYYYYYYBEEEEEEEEEEE. Her original intent was to stay married. But things didn’t work out. That I can get.

My father decided not to be in my life. That *choice* of having a father in MY life was taken away from me. It PAINS me to see shows where fathers are passing on fatherly advice to their daughters. It just about KILLS me. Growing up, all my friends and cousins had their dads in their lives. I was the only kid without a father. (This was in the 70’s & 80’s.) And I felt like a freak. It never occurred to me that fathers should be in their children’s lives until I was older and I could see I was the only one without a dad.

Nice.

I guess the only difference between me and your current child is that so many women are opting for the sperm donor route atleast your kid will have other fatherless children to relate to.

I don’t like to mention that my dad left when I was 2 1/2yrs because so many people, when finding out about my father and me being CF they assume I don’t want children because I’m afraid the father will leave. I want to say that is NOT true. I’ve just NEVER wanted kids.

That being said, I’ll speak as an only (not “lonely!” I was never lonely) child without a father: It sucks. It sucked hard. I’ll never know how much easier my life could have been had he paid his damn child support. Or what it feels like to be loved by a man unconditionally. Because yes, that is what fathers *do* for their little girls. (I can’t speak as a boy. Obviously.)

I know what happened. Last November, after 39 years, I was contacted by my father. I don’t even call him my father because he went away, so the *circumstances* and *cause* between me and your child will be different, but there result is the same: growing up fatherless. It pains me, to this day, 2-3 months later thinking about how he stuck around to care for his two other children after having been remarried after leaving me and my mother. (Although she divorced him. He did not stick around.)

I was watching Snoop Dogg’s show, “Father Hood” a couple of weeks ago and he was having a moment with his daughter about how to start her singing career. I cried. I had to turn away because I ached for that as a child. I could see how my uncles treated, nutured, reared, and loved their daughers – my cousins. Or my female friends. Or how male cousins or male friends had special relationships with their fathers. Even my boyfriend. And a part of me envies that.

You think about denying your child the love, affection, attention, education, nuturing, etc. that you are denying your child by not having his father around. And don’t give me that lame, “But I have male friends who can give my child all that and be a role model” bullshit. Because it is NOT the same. I had male role models, my uncles.

But. IT IS NOT THE SAME.

Selfish breeder bitches like you are pathetic. Atleast you got what you wanted, regardless of the long term consequences are not just to your child, but to the man who you used to get sperm. It is no longer about you. It is about your child now.

BTW, I tried going to your site. It’s down. It wont’ change my mind anyway.

One thing is very clear – it isn’t about the child’s needs, it’s about you or other women having something that THEY want – a baby – regardless of the childs needs and regardless of the fact that actually the child does have a right to have a father not just be an offshoot of a sperm dump. Or, let me put it another way, after consideration of the child’s needs the need to mother overrides them every time. So, child on a whim? No. It’s very deliberate.

With articles titled “are Fathers Getting Obsolete?” – perhaps that’s one only you can answer. Your response below in one of the articles (unless these are words put into your mouth) is interesting indeed…

She finally settled on, “Scott doesn’t have a dad; I had him on my own.” “It lets folks know the unusual answer in a gentler way. Then if they want to know more, I can go into the donor story.”
Right. But he does have a dad. Or at least maybe he would have liked the choice to have a Dad. Perhaps the deliberately “sans father” kids will let you know when they get old enough.

So, while the US articles may have been “gentler” on you than the UK press, from what I can see much of the same stuff appears in the publicity from both sided of the pond.

I’m yet to read anything that changes what I thought when I read the article in the first place.

Frankly I wasn’t interested enough to read your book – and who said anything about firm conclusions? My opinion is based on the article about you (which I had imagined you’d given your permission for them to print anyway). I assume you wrote to the Editor complaining about the wrong type of exposure right? And as for feeling the “need “to “attack the choices of others…” spare me. We’re still entitled to have whatever opinion we want to have. And for the record since it’s my blog I can write whatever I please here.

I will have a look at your site – and I’ll see if it does anything to change my opinion about engineering deliberate single motherhood, with the kids sans pere, or my commentary on your media write up. But I doubt it.

yes they can create embryos out of 2 sets of female dna.

they actually can choose the sex of a child in some european countries (italy)

http://www.timesonline.co.uk/article/0,,1072-2505381,00.html

The Human Fertilisation and Embryology Authority (HFEA) wouldn’t let them try sex selection here, so they tried — albeit without success — in Italy. However, they still believe that they were right, that people should be able to balance their families, and that all it does is bring much-wanted children into the world (as opposed to the thousands born “naturally”, but unwanted every year).

it could in the worse case be like it is in india, where girls can be killed for being a girl, this is admittedly worse case

Like my fellow posters here, I can’t stop shaking my head and shuddering.

As for the treatment of men as disposable sperm donors, it’s deplorable. Hey, men get on my nerves from time to time, but I’ll never go around declaring that they are obsolete. It’s very disturbing that these single women by choice will send that message to any sons they may have.

Is this these females idea of being “superwoman” and “empowered”? Sounds more like the females are woefully misguided and mistaken.

Just because you want something, it doesn’t mean you should get it.

*shakes head*

I’ll never ever ever understand how someone can desire a child when they cannot provide anything above overwhelming disadvantage.

*shrugs*

I know that they say that they don’t feel “complete” until they have children.

I think that’s sad…..

Self-worth and self confidence comes from the self!!