But, hey, the women want a baby, right? Looks like that’s all that matters.

Peggy Archer - I guess the children in need of a better life just aren’t good enough to fulfil the “need.”

Shannon - “They felt they were robbed of a father by a selfish mother. It’s not all about YOU and your selfish want to reproduce!”

They were.

Mercurior - It’s a matter of time before sperm donors wake up to the reality that no good deed goes unpunished. Of course the mothers will be after them for child support once it’s allowed… and it will be. Men need to inform themselves about the implications of donating sperm, not just because of multiple kids (and mothers) who might turn up wanting support, but because of the fact they’re creating many kids with no knowledge of who they are.

Seems to me that if they really loved children so much, they’d make an existing child’s life better by adopting them and giving them a loving home.

Just my $.02

The variety of families have changed. But still, what is Sloan and her ilk (nice word by the way..), going to tell the child when asking for a father. Would she tell the truth or make up a lie? I am not sure which is worse.

First day at school: “Sooooo….what is YOUR father doing?”..
“Father??? What is that??????”

Prospects…?

I completely agree that purposeful single-motherhood is self-serving and the ultimate in selfishness. It’s still disgusting denying a child the right to a father. They will never know what that will do to their children.

Clearly this is not being done out of love but a selfish greedy want that overcomes many women when all they can think about is having a baby. Feh is correct, this is not a biological need. BREATHING is a biological need, not breeding.

And really, you bring up an excellent point about how it MUST be their own flesh and blood. AS IF these women are all that. If they truly feel they had something to offer as a mother, why not adopt? The ONLY leeway I will give here is that I understand that it can be EXTREMELY difficult to adopt children here in the States. Or atleast, so I’ve been told. So that it’s actually easier to pop one out yourself is you’re so desperate. But I don’t think it’s due to any dificulty in adopting but more due to a feeling of self importance and grandiosity.

No, people. You canNOT have it all. It is a MYTH.

Much like the smoke and mirrors of parenthood, where we always told it’s well worth the struggle, and that you “forget” how hard it is because you can look at what you’ve produced…etc. Almost every parent I’ve know says that no matter the preparation you’re never prepared for parenthood. And that’s with a mother AND a father pitching in.

My younger sister is a single parent - and certainly not by design. When her toe-rag of a husband started being violent (she was, oh, probably about 6 months pregnant and the time) she kicked him out and changed the locks. She’s an admirable lady and my niece is great. She works full time and so childcare is a must. She is fortunate she has a network of supportive friends, as family don’t live near.

Even if she did not tell me how hard it can be, I know how hard it is and how much of a struggle it is to bring up a child solo when you never planned for it to be the case. So when these breeders present such a lighthearted view, casually and deliberately putting aside the fatherhood aspect simply because they are slaves to their supposed biological clocks… well EBC, you’ve said it politely. They make me want to upchuck.

And another thing… the self-serving aspect is apparent. I think of that when I think of the myriads of children who would actually like to have ANY parent. But no. They must have their own flesh and blood baby.

They WANT….
a baby to play dress up with
someone others can coo over
a kodak moment
someone to love them unconditionally
a baby shower
a best friend

Bring me your average weary and tired single mother who is desperately trying to keep her sanity together as she works fulltime and provides the fulltime support of her children. Guaranteed those women, even in the love and devotion of their children, have a much less casual take on single motherhood.