Just One More Reason Not To Have Kids
28 07 2008It’s a short post today.
And to be honest this story doesn’t need that much dwelling on. But every time I read one of these reports of violent children (and they seem to be depressingly common these days) it makes me think of how glad I am that I am childfree. This is one thing I don’t have to worry about.
Clearly these violent children (now criminals) did not make the roll call for those who were destined to save the world. When asked by childed people if I “wasn’t interested in seeing if my progeny would develop the next world saving miracle drug, and how they were making a valuable contribution” I’ve been surprised at their total certainty. Not a chance of their child becoming anything less than the next Einstein. And while most kids don’t grow up to become criminals, it’s clear that it doesn’t take much as this link proves.
Sadly this is but the latest in a string of reports about the violent tendencies of some of today’s children. The past few weeks in London have seen fatal stabbings by children as young as 13. Now, even being asked to pick up litter (garbage) you’ve dropped in a public place risks an attack by an angry teenage mob. Leave aside the fact that that dropping litter carries a fine anyway, the sheer disregard for other people, the lack of respect for the police and the sheer violence of the attack on the Police who were just doing their job are simply scary.
If these children have no sense of responsibility or common decency (which they obviously don’t) then who is to blame for creating these anti-social elements of society who are going to cost us more than they already do?
We should be concerned, since we’re forever lectured that children “are the future” so the childfree are doing a disservice in not having them.
I’m quite happy to pass. It’s just one more reason to be childfree.
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And what is making children behave like this? It is their crappy breeders who do not parent and treat their kids like friends. How much do you want to be the instinct of these “parents” was to be mad at the police officer for asking their child to do something. God forbid! We should all be really scared because we have a generation (or two) that feels completely entitled to do anything they want and have zero consequences for their actions. Makes me sick :-P~~
I remember my 15 year old brother being bought home by a policeman, who he’d decided to have a piece of when he was stoned off his face. Bro fetches up in the lounge, and his first words to my father are : “He hit me. What are you going to do about it?”
My father’s reply was “I’m going to let him take you outside and have another go”. You could practically see the policeman’s eyes gleam.
Can you tell this was many years ago?
It’s a shame that the police have lost the ability to put the fear of god into these little shits. The world was a much better place when a policeman was someone to be feared if you were misbehaving, and respected even if you weren’t.
Does a policeman have to die before the message gets across that we have to do something about these little bastards? Because you can bet that’s coming, but you can hear the bleeding hearts now … “they’re just chilllldren!!!” Wake up, you morons. They’re lawless little thugs who could do with a can of tear gas and a baton upside the head, to make up for where their parents so obviously failed. The message is simple, stay out of trouble and nobody gets hurt. Go looking for it, and it will find you first.
I agree with you - if this is our future, I’m moving to the moon.
Yep, I just can’t fathom why people are soooo convinced their little angel is going to be the greatest benefactor yet of humanity…geniuses and saints are few and far between but little thugs are two a penny. I am truly amazed at the crap I see parents taking from their children. What ever happened to the words “no”, “don’t” and “right, no chocolate for you for a week?” Instead, last time I was in the supermarket, I saw a mother almost pleading with her little darling, saying “Timmy, please don’t do that. It makes mummy sad when you do that. Timmy, that’s not nice, darling,” instead of the firm treatment the monster deserved.
Parents have made a rod for their own backs. Instead of backing up the authority figures in our society, the teachers and police, parents attack them when - horror - they DARE to correct or criticise their offspring. In a way it makes sense. If you see your children so much as an extension of yourself, a criticism of your child is a criticism of YOU. Parents need to stop trying to be best pals with their kids and be parents instead.
Me - I am opting out of the whole thing and avoiding children wherever possible. My cats are affectionate and appreciative, if not entirely well-behaved.
The majority of the horrid behavior out of today’s kids and teens stems from it not being checked at home. It is highly annoying to hear parents defending their sprogs bad behavior. It is equally annoying to hear so-called do-gooders, like social workers for example, whine to the public about “having understanding” when it comes to youths.
Enough is enough, already! I’m sick of society as a whole being expected to just take being a victim when one of these juvenile deliquents pulls something. Please, can we go back to the days when parents were in control of households and it was a given that all adults were to be respected by rug rats?
However the parents are responsible for their behaviour…I don’t understand some peoples dare to have biological children, but don’t concern at all about their children morale, behaviour, and education. You’re right that it’s better to be childfree if we are not sure whether we can breed them well.
I was reading recently that a couple of kids slashed a woman’s arm with a knife. Reason? She had the temerity to tell them to stop smoking in a non-smoking place. Guess they didn’t like being told what to do.
Melisa - the parents think they’ve done a good job just by having them. I don’t think they’re too bothered about much else. We’re always being told to do “our bit” for society so i suppose this is what they mean.
Hi all,
Short-term lurker, first time poster!
Britgirl - I think you’re referring to a recent incident in the UK where two teenage a*seholes pushed a woman offa railway platform onto a LIVE line because she asked them to stop smoking - she was lucky to get away with a broken wrist and second-degree burns.
Quite agree that there are FAR too many kids of all ages getting away with everything - sorry, but human rights for these overprivileged little bastards (is ‘language’ allowed?!) have gone too far: a bloody good slapping is what 80% of them need.
Ahem, please excuse me being a bit forthright in my first post, have been lurking round the archives for a few days enjoying the site v much.
Hi Rhona - glad you’re enjoying the blog. Yes, “language is allowed” ;).
As well as that railway incident there was yet another… I think at a bus shelter. A woman asked (asked, mind) them to stop doing something _ I think smoking - and they slashed her arm with a knife. Criminals.
Sometimes I think the parents DO try their best and the kids are still shits. My brother was like this although I’ll give you this he was never violent.
I live in London although I am NOT British but a New Zealander married to an Egyptian and it amazes me with all these things going on when people here ask why I don’t want kids - people who DO read the news! (I rarely do but I get snippets now and then.) I would rather raise them even in Egypt than the UK (obviously I think I’d choose New Zealand of the three!)
These things are a big part of my reasons why I don’t want kids (although there are LOADS more where THEY came from!) Luckily hubby agrees.
I think I would literally kill myself if I had kids like these!
P.S. We used to go dancing etc. a lot more but now honestly (although we travel internationally, go out for dinner and so on) it even seems dicey to go explore London’s night life these days!
All the stories of teenage violence is a lot like the dystopia envisioned in ‘Clockwork Orange’ from the early 70s. I think the difference was that the film used the class system as a way of delineating a cause and effect on the problem whereas perhaps today’s problem is more dispersed across social lines.
BritGirl - you have some really good stuff here and smart contributors too.
As I get time I will read all the messages and archives.
Thanks for believing what you do and standing up for those beliefs.
As a guy that has experienced just about everything with women and enjoyed alot of it - I can say that for most men I have known and myself too - We would like a woman that we love and that loves us and we could live in peaceful harmony and just be and it could go on forever and that’s the simple life we would choose.
I did some polls earlier and was surprised to find that 85% of men didn’t want children at all or for 3 - 5 years - they wanted an adult relationship with a woman for several years. We wanted and expected that there were women who would be happy with just those things too. That we would be all they needed and they would be all we needed.
Many men told me that their parents or the woman’s parents and peers put pressure on them to have kids and they were considered irresponsible if they didn’t. A few years ago Sally Jessie Raffiel (sp) said that men that didn’t want to have kids were irresponsible. Her audience was mostly women and they cheered of course. But also it was women that wanted babies that were there.
I could consider helping a woman who already had kids financially and emotionally if other things were right but I’ve never met one that didn’t want more kids or kids.
Someone mentioned men being women’s wallets and I’ve experienced that alot. They were concerned with my job, my car far more than who I was and that was a real turn off. For awhile I was a bellman and made lot of money - but my position was beneath many of the women in the hotel so they wouldn’t date me and some even said “who would want to marry a bellman?” I didn’t know marrying a bellman was the subject but it was for them.
So I started dating women from outside the hotel and we’d go there sometimes in the evening to the nightclub and they stare at us - like is she crazy?
I don’t have a use for anyone that uses other people.
One young woman had two very sweet kids and I would have spent some time with them - the kids and I had a natural chemistry. But all she was interested in was how much money I made or might be able to make and I asked her if her little son would grow up to be a second class citizen because he was a guy. It angered her. I guess I was happy when she got married to a man that made a lot of money and she found out that men know when a woman is more interested in money than them and he dumped her. She much older now and far away but has been married 3 times and is alone again - friends tell me.
I dated another woman who said she got pregnant to spite her mother who never paid enough attention to her. She also told me she wanted 12 kids and I never was confident enough in her to have sex with her - so we didn’t.
I have seen it over and over - that for some women - having babies is what they live for and all they live for. As someone else suggested - do they really want to have kids or just to have a baby? My wife works with a bunch of younger women who get pregnant regularly and work where she does to meet guys. Several are getting money from at least 4 guys and welfare (us) picks up the rest. She strongly disapproves that as I do.
Where is the adult fun and I don’t mean sex now - I mean just being together - actually walking on the beach, going to a concert (yuk -but I would go) hitting the bars - watching football (my wife loves it) and everyday we do things for each other and enjoy it - after 37 years.
Love isn’t something that just survives on it’s own. You have to nourish it on a regular basis. We both did that and still do, and are very happy about it. My wife is the only woman I’ve ever had in my life that didn’t want kids and while I’m sure (as has been said here) that I would love kids if they were here - I’m glad she didn’t want any and I never really saw any lacking in her because of not having them - we both see a cute little kid and remark - but that doesn’t mean we want one ourselves.
And we play - from video game golf to just reaching out and SMACKING each other now and then - life is fun.
We certainly worry about a corrupt washington dc, wars, food and energy costs but other than that we have alot of fun.
Thanks for listening.
John Hansen majorhart@sbcglobal.net