(Also, I loathe when people put their kid’s picture in their profile pic, rather than a pic of themselves!)

… don’t have animals as child substitutes. They love their animals precisely because they’re NOT children..

… have the utmost respect for people who parent well. It’s the irresponsible minority that annoy us.

And I would totally take cleaning the litterbox over dealing with dirty diapers ANY DAY – especially since we switched to pinewood litter. Controls odors great, smells like a pine forest and you just scoop out the clumps and flush away. Somehow I just can’t see that being done with diapers…

I saw a comment saying that it is hard for childfree women to get a tubal litigation. If you are in UK and willing to pay then I recommend Marie Stopes in Essex. I feel that something that had bothered me has finally been laid to rest.

…. would rather clean a litter box than change a diaper. (this one, anyway!)

…MUCH easier to make plans with…brunch, dinner, movies etc. all are fun and easy to plan!

Yeah, it gets harder to deal with almost all the time. I guess the reason I’m still around is that a part of me does feel guilty. Also, I think she’s speaking out of hurt right now, so I’m just waiting to see if once she gets that out whether this is salvagable or not. I’m not optimistic but we’ll see.

But, i want to add my thoughts to this.

About 10 years ago i found out i can’t have children. At first, i didn’t care. Then one day i felt like being a mother. A very deep but disturbing feeling, considering the situation.

As time passed by, i realized the freedom i had, compared to young women at my age and i started appreciating my life as it was…. as it is.
I didn’t have to obey any society rules on breeding, having to have kids screaming into my head the whole day and the whole thing that comes with the territory.

I am a happy child-free person, not by choice, but i am happy that whatever twisted thing happened to me 10 years ago, it doesn’t hurt me and i can enjoy life freely.

Others can do the multiplying on my behalf. They are welcome to it.
And even thought i know i would be an amazing mom, i don’t want to be one….not anymore.
Cheers and may you enjoy a beautiful and happy child-free life.

I’m an educator of young adults. I see my job as much MUCH more important than that of the parent. Honestly, I do what the parents SHOULD do… I prepare the kids for a life in the real world and provide the tools that they will need. Of course, this is getting harder and harder to do, since ignorant parents (see #2 above) tell their kids how ‘useless’ an education is.

While childfree people understand that hearing an ‘I love you’ from a child or any endearing remark is indeed heartwarming, and also understand that this can truly make a parent elated with joy, they feel absolutely no need or even desire for that interaction. They see it for what it is, are able to appreciate it, and just move on with their own fulfilled lives.

…are blissfully unburdened.

…engage deeply with the world on levels that parents can only fantasize about.

…watch their miserable, baby-saddled friends with some sympathy…but mostly relief.

are free free free!

Childfree people look at the big picture of how they affect the planet and the people around them.

Childfree people don’t use other human beings (children) as blackmail or bargaining chips in relationships.

Childfree people look at the agenda behind pro-natal propaganda spewed by governments and political parties.

Childfree people don’t verbally abuse and or manipulate their partners in answer to a hormonal urge to procreate.

Childfree people don’t give a rat’s ass how many celebrities, non-celebrities, real housewives, super obese women or little people have children, multiple children or platoons of children.

P.S. Kathryn–interesting that the study points out that those who say that having children was the best thing they ever did–umm, haven’t done anything else. Thank you! I’ve often had that same thought, as many of the people who make that claim had children early and gave up all other life pursuits. I suppose if the only thing you have ever done is dig a ditch that would also be the best thing, no?!

http://www.independent.co.uk/life-style/health-and-families/health-news/dr-feelgood-486771.html

“And what of children – surely the next step to a life of contentment? Quick as a flash, Veenhoven, a father of three, prints out a graph from his computer. It shows the happiness levels of couples rising and peaking after marriage. Then, when children arrive, the black line plummets at such a rapid decent you can almost hear an aeroplane nosediving. “One of the surprises is that children don’t add to happiness,” says Veenhoven. “The presence of children detracts from the quality of marriage, at least to the quality of the modern, romantic, equal marriage. The situation becomes even more unhappy in modern marriages where the mother is working and looking after children.”

But what of those who say that having children was the best thing they ever did? “These people might think so, but they don’t know how life would have been if they hadn’t had children.” But the trend reverses at the age of 85, when those with children are happier than those without. “I do think that we have a need for companionship, so if you are childless but have a lot of friends, you easily compensate. But if you happen to reach 90, then most of your friends are dead and then it’s an advantage to have children and grandchildren.”

so pleased to have found this blog!