Happy New Year Like It Is readers! Here’s wishing everyone a wonderful New Year. And hopefully the holiday season was safe and peaceful. The first post of 2010 has a couple of updates. But first, as we look forward to another decade and I thought of this blog post, I found myself wondering, what, if anything, has changed for the childfree? I’ve been blogging about it for quite some time and in some ways nothing has changed. In other ways not much has changed at all. Being childfree still attracts criticism from society and pressure from people who think the thing to do is to have children, no matter what. That means childfree people still have to defend their choice and argue their case – even when it’s clear they shouldn’t have to.
Teenagers still get pressure from “well-meaning” parents and “friends” to start thinking about having children “before it’s too late” – even when they say they have no intention of, or are not interested in, having kids. They, as well as older women – are told are told they will change their minds…
Off line, it can be hard to meet anyone who is childfree. Online it’s now fairly easy to find blogs and discussions on being childfree. Online isn’t enough… but it’s something. It’s 2010 and the word “childfree” doesn’t have the respect it should have… considering we are supposed to tolerate and respect one another’s choices. In a relationship the person who wants to have children is supposed to hold all the cards… and, as we know, the decision to have children (or not) is often a deal-breaker.
Having listed all this (and I know I’ve left out quite a bit here) I come back to the question… what has changed for the better? Perhaps knowing other childfree men and women, even if only online is a great thing. Should there be more? Do you feel more things have changed or that nothing at all has changed? Are you expecting anything different or does it not matter? Share your thoughts.
On the subject of changes, I am thinking of some for the blog… Read On..
For the past few months I’ve had competing demands on my time (full time job, a marketing side business – because you never know these days, right? and more). Unsurprisingly this is has impacted my blogging frequency – in manner of being time-starved – plus I haven’t felt the inspiration seize me as often as it used to and drive me until I blog it out. I know many of you do have plenty of inspiration – I can see that in the comments you share which are often almost posts in their own right. One of the ideas I’ve tossed around for a few months now is the idea of guest authors and guest articles. If you have an article you want to share on the blog, feel free to send to me in Word format in an email for consideration. And if you have a blog, you’ll of course get a link back to it.
Another thing that had to take a back-seat to blogging is my being able to visit other childfree blogs. There simply hasn’t been the time. I miss doing that because as well as giving me ideas there are some great childfree blogs out there that could do with more exposure. It can be hard to get that exposure unless someone comments or links to your blog. I plan to visit as many as I can – so look out some interesting links/posts for you to comment on here.
I still have several interesting links and stories sent in from readers and I’ll be featuring some of them over the next few weeks. Look out for them so you can comment on a link or article you’ve sent in (you don’t have to use your name) as it adds to the conversation. And as always, if you have ideas for discussion topics send them to me (better still, kick things off with your own thoughts).
The frequency of new posts will continue to be a little spotty … make sure you sign up to the RSS feed if you haven’t already so you get the updates as and when. Also look out for some changes to the blog design…(suspense!)
OK, back to this week’s post…. thoughts?