Of recent I’ve had much less time to blog. Five years on writing about childfree issues hasn’t dimmed my interest but on the other hand I feel the older I get the less I could care whether anyone “approves” of my choice. Except when folk like Mr Skelton go wading into waters they have no clue about. I have no interest in helping anyone understand either. If you are a friend of mine, childed or not you accept and don’t try and convert – it’s mutual.
But one issue that’s always close to home as far as childfree people go is the issue of friendships and more importantly social lives.
I was thinking of our fellow childfree friend who has just gone through a divorce and who is going to have to build a new social circle. Being part of a church community should help the childfree in theory, right? From what I know, that often isn’t the case at all.
The other thing that got me thinking is my direct involvement in creating social events for primarily single people through dancing. While I am doing something that I really love, it’s more than being about me. It’s a pretty amazing thing from a childfree perspective, so see people having a great time with not even a thought of “the kid conversation” popping up. Most of our group is either single, never married or separated with grown up kids looking to meet new people and do new things.
Now, is that deliberate? Partly. I know not everyone likes to dance (though I would argue that it is one of THE best ways of meeting people there is) and I have heard all the “reasons why.”
So my question to you is – what are your suggestions for childfree people looking to build a new social life – either after friends having kids or after going through a break up?
It is not the same if you are married. It is not the same if you have a girlfriend or boyfriend. It is an uphill battle if you want to begin dating. However I know it is possible because both my childfree husband and I have done it.
So – be sensitive . Come up with 3 practical childfree tips (preferably something that has worked for you) and share them on the blog. I am sure they will be of immense encouragement to our fellow childfree friends.