If you’re childfree, how many times have you been informed “you wouldn’t understand because you don’t have kids?” Even though, because you are childfree – you probably understand far more than the parents give you credit for. Enough, at least to know that it’s not the life you want. Enough to know you often have to make allowances for parents – and children.
As a childfree person have you been told you are not qualified even to comment on, or give any child–parenting-related advice at all - even to siblings and friends? Even if the advice is actually spot-on and helpful?
So, if you, as a dhildfree person supposedly don’t “understand anything about kids and parenting because you don’t have kids” and you’re not qualified to comment on kid-related stuff to parents or similar… then aren’t parents even less qualified to comment, let alone understand childfree people or the childfree life?
If the answer’s yes, then why do the childed feel they are qualified to tell us any one of the number of things they often tell the childfree…
“You’ll love them once you have your kids…”
“You’re missing out if you don’t have kids…”
“Wait until you’ve had kids of your own…” (This one always sounds rather like a threat to me)
“You haven’t really known love until you’ve had a child…”
“You haven’t met the right man/woman, when you do you’ll want to have kids…”
“You’ll change your mind…”
“You’ll regret it if you don’t….”
You’ll grow up once you have a kid…”
“You’ll [insert bingo here]…”
Perhaps we should have a stock phrase, similar to the one they use. Something like “You couldn’t possibly understand, since you’re not childfree…you’re not qualified to comment.”