These days very few people come out directly to pressure me into having kids. Wouldn’t make any difference if they did – it would be a waste of time. I’ve done quite a bit to remove myself from many images of kiddies and parenting, limiting any avenues for suggestions. I don’t watch t.v. and I don’t (as several disgruntled parents seem to like doing) go visiting parenting and mommy blogs.
One of the best childfree decisions I made was to live downtown. Not only is there so much else to do, most of the people downtown are single – or in relationships with no kids. It doesn’t mean there are no kids at all, but certainly no daily reminders. A huge help.
However not everyone is quite as fortunate in being left alone to get on with their lives as childfree people. A look at the number of bingoes they get is simply one aspect of this. Sometimes the pressure to have kids comes from family members, sometimes it can be from friends, sometimes work colleagues, often it’s a more subtle pressure from society or other external sourced. Since we see very few positive images of childfree people (although this is changing) everywhere to balance the overly pro-natalistic pressure from society, it’s easy to believe there aren’t many childfree people about – but there are plenty.
So what’s your view? Do you feel pressure to have children? If so, where does it come from and how do you deal with it? If not have you any tips and words for other readers?
Feel free to share your thoughts.